feat: add sqlite-based memory store for live workflows. Fixes #12025

[jiachengxu]

Fixes: #12025
Implementation of the proposal: #12025 (comment)

This PR implements a sqlite-based in-memory store that the workflow server will use to list live workflows, it provides:

• more unified query availability, including ordering & filtering by date, filtering by labels, archived-workflow-like pagination. (Note that nameprefix is not added in this PR).
• using List and Watch reflector so that workflow server won't tax Kubernetes per every user request.
• new pagination method gets rid of the merging of live and archived workflows logic, and it doesn't require merging both live and archived workflows every time.

For testing the change of this PR, I have created a image and pushed to quay.io: https://quay.io/repository/jiachengxu/argocli, and you can replace the image of the argo-server container in the argo-server Deployment with quay.io/jiachengxu/argocli:fix-v6

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Verification

[Joibel]

@jiachengxu unfortunately I've reverted this commit in #13018
The CI was not correctly testing the argocli image as part of the PR, and ListWorkflows in some of the tests using argocli is returning an empty list (@isubasinghe has demonstrated this).
It'll need fixing up and resubmitting on top of #13018 which should test the CLI properly from now on.

[agilgur5]

Follow-up to Alan's comments above and my own root cause analysis that led up to the revert, I suspect a very tiny piece of this PR was causing the CLI bug

[agilgur5]

Backported into release-3.5 as 50dc580

• Fixed several merge conflicts in the deps -- mostly removed changes in adjacent deps to be as minimal as needed for this PR
  • lot of the conflicts were from other dep upgrades on main, such as chore(deps)!: bump k8s dependencies to 1.26 #12847 and chore(deps): bump github.com/argoproj/argo-events from 1.7.3 to 1.9.1 #12860 etc
• Fixed one small conflict in the imports in workflow_server.go