feat: distributed execution of update statement

[SkyFan2002]

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Summary

1. Introduce distributed execution of update statement
2. Fix: deduplicate label is invalid in distributed mode

Compared with v1.2.250-nightly in medium size warehouse:

#13971
bendsql --query='drop table update_target;'
bendsql --query='create table update_target(c1 int,c2 int);'
bendsql --query='insert into update_target select number,number from numbers(5000000);'
bendsql --query='insert into update_target select number,number from numbers(5000000);'
bendsql --query='ALTER warehouse update_distributed suspend;'
bendsql --query='use warehouse update_distributed;'
time bendsql --query='update update_target set c2 = 1 where c1 % 2 = 0;' # 0m5.577s
bendsql --query='select count(*) from update_target where (c1 % 2 = 0) and (c2 != 1);'

# v1.2.250-nightly
bendsql --query='drop table update_target;'
bendsql --query='create table update_target(c1 int,c2 int);'
bendsql --query='insert into update_target select number,number from numbers(5000000);'
bendsql --query='insert into update_target select number,number from numbers(5000000);'
bendsql --query='ALTER warehouse single suspend;'
bendsql --query='use warehouse single;'
time bendsql --query='update update_target set c2 = 1 where c1 % 2 = 0;' # 0m7.747s
bendsql --query='select count(*) from update_target where (c1 % 2 = 0) and (c2 != 1);'

• Closes Feature: distributed execution of update statement #13961

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[SkyFan2002]

After discussing with @zhang2014, it'd be better that #13981 be solved in another PR, temporarily convert this PR to draft.

[SkyFan2002]

Get deduplicate_label early to make it work in distributed mode, which skips #13981 for now. Let's merge this PR cc @zhang2014 @dantengsky

[dantengsky]

LGTM

[BohuTANG]

Can we add a explain of the distributed update in another PR?

[SkyFan2002]

Can we add a explain of the distributed update in another PR?

Of course