reimplement fix for akka/pekko cluster #839

Job	Run time
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster/test distributed-data/test cluster-tools/test cluster-metri...	9m 40s
Pekko Cluster Metrics Test with Sigar	6m 52s
JDK 8 / Scala 2.12.x	24m 48s
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster-sharding/test)	9m 32s
JDK 11 / Scala 2.12.x	24m 47s
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster-typed/test cluster-sharding-typed/test)	9m 5s
JDK 17 / Scala 2.12.x	24m 48s
JDK 21 / Scala 2.12.x	24m 48s
JDK 8 / Scala 2.13.x	24m 48s
JDK 11 / Scala 2.13.x	24m 47s
JDK 17 / Scala 2.13.x	24m 48s
JDK 21 / Scala 2.13.x	24m 48s
JDK 8 / Scala 3.3.x	24m 49s
JDK 11 / Scala 3.3.x	24m 47s
JDK 17 / Scala 3.3.x	24m 47s
JDK 21 / Scala 3.3.x	24m 47s
	5h 32m 41s

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