reimplement fix for akka/pekko cluster #838

Job	Run time
Pekko Cluster Metrics Test with Sigar	7m 21s
JDK 8 / Scala 2.12.x	36m 10s
JDK 11 / Scala 2.12.x	36m 11s
JDK 17 / Scala 2.12.x	36m 7s
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster/test distributed-data/test cluster-tools/test cluster-metri...	6m 15s
JDK 21 / Scala 2.12.x	36m 11s
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster-sharding/test)	9m 17s
JDK 8 / Scala 2.13.x	36m 10s
Pekko Classic Remoting Tests (cluster-typed/test cluster-sharding-typed/test)	8m 54s
JDK 11 / Scala 2.13.x	36m 12s
JDK 17 / Scala 2.13.x	36m 13s
JDK 21 / Scala 2.13.x	36m 10s
JDK 8 / Scala 3.3.x	36m 11s
JDK 11 / Scala 3.3.x	36m 15s
JDK 17 / Scala 3.3.x	36m 10s
JDK 21 / Scala 3.3.x	36m 10s
	7h 45m 57s

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