issues outlined in various comments, basically boils down to ideally using the wrapped collection components state

ended up going with dispatching events to the menu/menuitem so we can piggyback off of useSelectableCollection and menus press handling for submenutriggers, onAction, and link handling

for now we will have first item auto focus, no custom announcements, and clear focus on backspace or arrow left/right. See https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/12M--aeeNK4Kruzg8GnO7L-_DUsQE29_bWJzu4yI4-UA/edit?gid=1690380375#gid=1690380375 for a testing matrix

complications making the custom announcements for safari have a delay for when typing ahead but not when using the arrow keys to move through the options, so stashed it for now

… testing

…ual focus (#7378)

* get clear and focus first working with custom events

* fix delayed id update and update id on item hover

* refactor logic to use custom events to move virtual focus instead of a callback ref

* move logic out of menu and down into selection hooks

* use useEvent

didnt use it in autocomplete hook since the ref might not initially exist which is a problem for useEvent (it wont setup the listener)

…behavior

also removes the delay event, readd if we find there can be a batch case where we need to be more careful about the event that is being delayed