lazy attribute for updateDependents

[johnf]

I have a slightly strange use case. This is for @react-native-vector-icons

Let me lay up an example

• @react-native-vector-icons/common: Version 11.0.0
• @react-native-vector-icons/fontawesome6: Version 6.20.7 (Depends on @react-native-vector-icons/common: Version ^11.0.0)

Currently, if I create a fix commit that makes changes in packages/common, only then will the common package get bumped to 11.0.1 as expected. The fontawesome6 package will also get updated to 6.20.8 so that its dependency can be bumped.

I want to avoid this situation and have a config option so that fontawesome6 is only updated if the common version is outside the declared semver range. For example, in this case, it would need to jump to 12.0.0.